This blog is a continuation of:

Day 30: Goodness as Positivity,
Day 31: You're My HERO!!!
Day 32: Consistency and
Day 33: Wanting to be the Star Pupil 
Day 34: Make a Happy Family 
Day 35:Don't Act like Lady Gaga - Act like a Real Lady!
Day 36: Join JESUS on The CROSS -What?! WHY?!? Day 37: The Secret to a Successful Life!
Day 37: Be Good, Little Human
Day 38: Richness, Compliments and Validation

Day 40: The Parable of the Talents

Day 41: God Collects his Debt

- continuing to purify the word 'Good'.

 

In my mind, I connect the word 'good' to:

 

Picture of Jesus on the Cross with a warm yellow light shining behind it

   

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ within and as a picture of jesus on the cross, with a crown of thorns on his head and a yellow shining light behind his head.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word ‘good’ to a picture of jesus on the cross with a crown of thorns on his head, only wearing a little robe around his waist, with a yellow shining light behind his head and a sad expression on his face.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word ‘good’ to torture.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ within torture.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word ‘good’ to fear of pain.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ with fear of pain.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word ‘good’ within and as pain.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ within and as pain.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word ‘good’ to and define the word ‘good’ within and as fear of acting bad out of fear of feeling guilty of jesus dying on the cross for my sins.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word ‘good’ to and define the word ‘good’ within and as fear of feeling guilty.

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This blog is a continuation of:
Day 30: Goodness as Positivity,
Day 31: You're My HERO!!!
Day 32: Consistency and
Day 33: Wanting to be the Star Pupil 
Day 34: Make a Happy Family 
Day 35:Don't Act like Lady Gaga - Act like a Real Lady!
Day 36: Join JESUS on The CROSS -What?! WHY?!? Day 37: The Secret to a Successful Life!
Day 37: Be Good, Little Human
Day 38: Richness, Compliments and Validation

Day 40: The Parable of the Talents

- continuing to purify the word 'Good'.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that if something is given to me for safekeeping, that I must then use it as though it is my own, even if it means risking that something and not being able to give it back as had been previously agreed – because of how the story of the parable of the talents goes that I was taught about in school.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe in the word of God and give more weight to words that are apparently words from God – as though they must by default be more true than anything else I had ever considered – and within this, override my own common sense with moral brainwashing.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to trade my common sense for what some type of authority person has to say without a moment of thought, without hesitation, without consideration.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear spending money out offear of losing it.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire to invest money and magically multiply it, as though this wouldn’t have any consequences.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ within and as the parable of the talents, defining what is ‘good’ and what is ‘bad’ according to a story of morality where some are judged to have acted in a good way and others are judged to have acted in a bad way.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to read words for what they are, but immediately believe a person when they say I should interpret the words in a different way, and within that – no longer see the words for what they are, and no longer see what the words imply and how they influence/program me.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that the bible is just a programming machine that teaches humans to accept the currenteconomic system without question – as this story is the perfect example of.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ within and as going to develop all your talents.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to think it’s not fair that ‘good’ means you have to develop all your talents – because mostly, whatever I tried out, I was good at and I was angry with God that he wanted me to become as good as I could be in all of those talents – where I ended up continuously being in classes – both in school and extra-curricular, to develop all my talents to the fullest, while feeling that I had no choice but to be there, even if I was no longer interested – because I had a duty to develop my talents in order to be good – even if those talents have no practical value.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I had a duty towards God to develop all the talents he had ‘bestowed’ on me, to make sure that when I meet my maker – I am able to show that I have developed my talents and ‘multiplied’ them.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to always accept statements from others saying that I must continue doing what I’m good at – and therefore always following ‘my talents’ without stopping to consider if I actually enjoy what I spend all this time developing.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I had a duty towards my parents to develop the talents that they had given me – as I was born from them, therefore I believed they had given me those skills – and therefore, I believed it was my duty to make them proud in becoming the most skilled version of myself, so that they have something to show for themselves:  “look what I created”.

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This blog is a continuation of:
Day 30: Goodness as Positivity,
Day 31: You're My HERO!!!
Day 32: Consistency and
Day 33: Wanting to be the Star Pupil 
Day 34: Make a Happy Family 
Day 35:Don't Act like Lady Gaga - Act like a Real Lady!
Day 36: Join JESUS on The CROSS -What?! WHY?!? Day 37: The Secret to a Successful Life!
Day 37: Be Good, Little Human
Day 38: Richness, Compliments and Validation

- continuing to purify the word 'Good'.

In my mind, I have connected the word 'good' to:


The Parable of the Talents

Before applying self-forgiveness on this point, I would like to expand on it.

With the parable of the talents I’m referring to the Christian parable that I was taught about in school when I was 12. Here it is:

13 “Therefore stay alert, because you do not know the day or the hour. 14 For it is like a man going on a journey, who summoned his slaves and entrusted his property to them. 15 To one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one, each according to his ability. Then he went on his journey. 16 The one who had received five talents went off right away and put his money to work270 and gained five more. 17 In the same way, the one who had two gained two more. 18 But the one who had received one talent went out and dug a hole in the ground and hid his master’s money in it. 19 After a long time, the master of those slaves came and settled his accounts with them. 20 The one who had received the five talents came and brought five more, saying, ‘Sir, you entrusted me with five talents. See, I have gained five more.’ 21 His master answered, ‘Well done, good and faithful slave! You have been faithful in a few things. I will put you in charge of many things. Enter into the joy of your master.’ 22 The one with the two talents also came and said, ‘Sir, you entrusted two talents to me. See, I have gained two more.’ 23 His master answered, ‘Well done, good and faithful slave! You have been faithful with a few things. I will put you in charge of many things. Enter into the joy of your master.’ 24 Then the one who had received the one talent came and said, ‘Sir, I knew that you were a hard man, harvesting where you did not sow, and gathering where you did not scatter seed, 25 so I was afraid, and I went and hid your talent in the ground. See, you have what is yours.’ 26 But his master answered, ‘Evil and lazy slave! So you knew that I harvest where I didn’t sow and gather where I didn’t scatter? 27 Then you should have deposited my money with the bankers, and on my return I would have received my money back with interest! 28 Therefore take the talent from him and give it to the one who has ten. 29 For the one who has will be given more, and he will have more than enough. But the one who does not have, even what he has will be taken from him. 30 And throw that worthless slave into the outer darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth’” (Matthew 25:13-30). 271

Source: http://bible.org/seriespage/parable-talents-matthew-2514-30-luke-1912-28

I remember being very confused about the outcome of the story. Because as I heard that the first two slaves were going to invest money that wasn’t theirs, I was like ‘wow, don’t do that – it’s not yours to spend’. And I thought ‘well, yeah – dig it in the ground, then you’re sure you won’t be tempted to spend it’. And then, afterwards, the lord apparently was proud of the servants who had invested his money and multiplied it and was pissed off with the one that had done what it had asked: safeguarded the money and given it back.

Then the teacher went on explaining that even though ‘talents’ was a currency in that time, that the story was a parable about talents in terms of skills – that you can’t burry your talents into the ground but that you have to go and develop them. But reading the story again now – there is really no metaphor going on here – this story is just about money and how to treat another’s money. And, it’s interesting, because I’ve been writing about the banking system in the Economist’s Journey to Life blogs recently and discussing how banks use money that isn’t theirs to make more money out of it, just like in this story – lol. So – that is what is being justified here by God: the entire banking and capitalistic system.

Check out specifically this statement:

“For the one who has will be given more, and he will have more than enough. But the one who does not have, even what he has will be taken from him.”

That is exactly what we’re doing within the current capitalistic system and this one seemingly morally important story, which they teach children about in school – is the divine justification for it. God teaches children: take from those who don’t have anything and give it to those who have plenty. People – that’s how the world works. What do you think the relationship is between the developed and the developing countries in the world? Exactly this: Resources are taken from those who don’t have and mostly live in poverty and are given to those who are already living comfortable lives.

No wonder this story never ‘sat right’ with me!

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This blog is a continuation of:
Day 30: Goodness as Positivity,
Day 31: You're My HERO!!!
Day 32: Consistency and
Day 33: Wanting to be the Star Pupil 
Day 34: Make a Happy Family 
Day 35:Don't Act like Lady Gaga - Act like a Real Lady!
Day 36: Join JESUS on The CROSS -What?! WHY?!? Day 37: The Secret to a Successful Life!
Day 37: Be Good, Little Human

- continuing to purify the word 'Good'.

In my mind, I have connected the word 'good' to:

Being rich

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ within and as being rich.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that rich people are rich due to their own merit.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define a person’s goodness according to the amount of money and wealth they have.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that those with money have that money because they deserve it as being better people.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that if one is poor, one must have done something bad to not be blessed with a life of richness.

Compliments & Validation

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ and being good within and as receiving compliments from others.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that if someone gives a compliment, that this compliment is a validation of be good in some way or in some aspect of my life/myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that someone making a remark/comment/acknowledgement of something that they see in relation to me, defines me and can change who I am.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to actually define my ‘goodness’ by summing up the ‘positive’/encouraging remarks I get from people and, as such, keep a score of all the positive reactions that I experienced within myself in relation to these remarks and define the sum total of these positive feelings, my ‘goodness’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to continuously actively try to please other people in order to get compliments from them and feel good about myself, within the belief that the longer and the more often I feel good about myself, the better a person I am becoming. Learn more »

This blog is a continuation of:
Day 30: Goodness as Positivity,
Day 31: You're My HERO!!!
Day 32: Consistency and
Day 33: Wanting to be the Star Pupil 
Day 34: Make a Happy Family 
Day 35:Don't Act like Lady Gaga - Act like a Real Lady!
Day 36: Join JESUS on The CROSS -What?! WHY?!?

Day 37: The Secret to a Successful Life!

- continuing to purify the word 'Good'.

In my mind, I have connected the word 'good' to:

Christianity – Jesus – God – Heaven

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define ‘good’ within and as everything that is portrayed as ‘positive’ and ‘good’ within Christianity – such as Jesus, God and Heaven.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that the answer to leading a proper life can be found within Christianity or religion in general – where I take in the words of others teaching about what it means to live a proper life and just accept it as truth.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to try to go looking for answers in a ‘great book’ that apparently has the knowledge of ‘good and evil’ and from where I can learn what it means to live in a way that is appropriate – instead of just using my own common sense and testing the points out for myself.

Being healthy

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ and ‘being good’ within and as being healthy.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that a person who is not healthy is a bad person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge people, including myself, based on a person’s health.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define a good person as a person who is in perfect health; who is slim, who has nice skin, who has perfect hair, who looks radiant.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that a person who has bad health has bad karma and that this person is suffering because he/she has done something wrong or bad in their life and therefore deserves to have health problems.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to, when I see someone who doesn’t meet the general ‘health standards’ think ‘ai, ai, ai – that person must have really fucked up to turn out so bad’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe in karma and give the concept of karma value without ever investigating what karma is and whether it is something that really supports a being or not.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that if I’m a good person, God will reward me with good health – and thus, that if I’m ill or having health issues, that God is punishing me for being a bad person/having done something wrong.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself that the human physical body is here as a support in physically giving us feedback in terms of our relationship with ourselves and that it’s not about rewarding or punishing or even judging yourself as good or bad – but simply to be able to see where you are at and what points require attention/alignment within self.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that physical illness merely reflects mental illness – indicating that I am in some way participating in an ILLusion that is preventing me from living life in equality and oneness, and thus, that there exists a point where I am kidding myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate in the “I’m a healthy person” Character – trying to show off how I am paying attention to what I eat and how I treat my physical body so that others may think/perceive/believe me to be a good person.

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This blog is a continuation of:
Day 30: Goodness as Positivity,
Day 31: You're My HERO!!!
Day 32: Consistency and
Day 33: Wanting to be the Star Pupil 
Day 34: Make a Happy Family 
Day 35:Don't Act like Lady Gaga - Act like a Real Lady!
Day 36: Join JESUS on The CROSS -What?! WHY?!?

- continuing to purify the word 'Good'.

In my mind, I have connected the word 'good' to:

Leading a Successful Life

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ within and as being successful in life.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define goodness within success.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define my success within and as being successful in love, friendship, career and studies.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that in order to be a good person I have to meet certain criteria and that these criteria include: finding good boyfriends/a good husband, having many good friends, having a career in which I make a lot of money and having good grades in school, passing everything from the first time.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define goodness in terms of achievement , and specifically, that I have to be able to show great achievements in terms of relationships, friendships, a career and studies.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I ‘have something to show for myself’ in terms of relationships, friendships, career and studies.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to have defined my value-system in relation to what I saw other people in my environment value – thereby copying their beliefs in terms of what is apparently important in life – such as relationships, friendships, a career and studies.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define life itself in terms of establishing and developing relationships, friendships, a career and good grades.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to value myself in terms of how the system values a person – in terms of the extent in which one integrates into the system and into their own mind consciousness system , in creating one’s life/environment in such a way that one is ‘trapped’ into their mind consciousness system with minimal opportunity for self-realisation. Learn more »

This blog is a continuation of:
Day 30: Goodness as Positivity,
Day 31: You're My HERO!!!
Day 32: Consistency and
Day 33: Wanting to be the Star Pupil 
Day 34: Make a Happy Family 
Day 35:Don't Act like Lady Gaga - Act like a Real Lady!

- continuing to purify the word 'Good'.

In my mind, I have connected the word 'good' to:

Self-Sacrifice

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ within and as sacrificing oneself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that if I sacrifice myself for others, that it means that I am a good person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to think I must be like Jesus and sacrifice myself so that others don’t have to.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to simply accept the idea that people who sacrifice themselves so others don’t have to suffer are noble heroes that should be applauded for their goodness and selflessness.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to see, realise and understand that self-sacrifice is just another form of self-sabotage and doesn’t really bring any actual solutions.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that in sacrificing myself so others don’t have to suffer, I am allowing myself to carry other people’s burdens – burdens that they have created themselves and are for them to face – where I will then carry everyone else’s burden so that others may be relieved within the idea and belief that: “It is better that just one person suffers a lot than that many people suffer a little.”

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to see and realise that playing the self-sacrifice character is just another way to get into someone’s good graces – thinking that: “if I do this for that person, that person will like me – or at least feel grateful or guilty and feel like he/she has to now repay me by doing me a favour or by being my friend.”

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to see and realise that self-sacrifice is actually done from the starting point of self-interest – so that other people will see me as ‘good’ and then, I can feel good about myself – and/or, so that it is easier to get people to do things for me, because good people deserve to get what they want – and more.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to see and realise that the self-sacrifice character is one of the most manipulative and disgraceful characters of all – because in apparently being absolutely innocent and selfless – the reasoning behind self-sacrificing acts is always within self-interest and never has anything to do with actually assisting other beings.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that in doing things for someone else, I am not actually assisting or supporting them in any way whatsoever – I am doing them a disservice, because if they had done the point/walked the point for themselves, they might have realised something or expanded themselves in some way – and thus, in sacrificing myself I am actually only taking opportunities away from others for self-growth, self-honesty and self-correction – just so I can feel good about myself – supporting their resistance instead of who they are as life as who they are able and capable of being.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that in sacrificing myself I am actually only supporting another’s self-limitation – and thus, accepting that self-limitation within myself as well.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to say ‘no’ when the point of self-sacrifice comes up because I fear that it is a bad thing not to want to sacrifice myself for others – and that, Jesus did it, therefore I shouldn’t have a problem with it either.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to say ‘no’ when the point of self-sacrifice comes up, because I don’t want others do dislike me for not having taken their burdens.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to buy people’s friendships with ‘apparent acts of kindness’ – and believe it to be normal and okay.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that every single friendship has always been based within manipulation of getting another person to like me vice versa.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to within trying to get to know a person – think that I have to be friends with them, and thus, that they have to ‘approve’ me as their friend – and therefore, try to ‘score points’ with them in who/how I am towards them so that they will like me and approve me as a member of their friendsclub – instead of just being here and spending time with the person without assuming I need their permission to be in their presence.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to think and believe that I cannot just be with people, but that they must give me some kind of permission for me to be around them/speak with them.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to always place myself in an inferior position to someone that seems interesting/someone I think I might enjoy spending time with – and therefore, wait to be ‘invited’ into their space, instead of realising and accepting myself as equal as this person and simply being here and sharing my hereness with this other person.


I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to always wait for permission to speak when I am among ‘strangers’ or people I don’t know well – because I feel like my presence might be unwanted and therefore, I rather just sit in the background, unnoticed, while still being able to hear everything that’s being said, than say something that is not ‘well-received’ and then people realising I am there and thinking they’d prefer I wasn’t.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to see and realise that self-sacrifice is basically self-compromise, where I will compromise myself to make another feel better.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing self-compromise to exist within and as me – instead of seeing and realising that self-compromise is never a solution to anything and therefore, unacceptable as it creates unnecessary harm.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to compromise myself in the name of friendships – because I thought and believed that without friends I was nobody in any case – therefore, sacrificing myself for friends makes sense – because friends will make me ‘count’, will make me ‘be someone’, will validate me.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to see and realise that if I sacrifice myself, there is nothing left to be validated in the first place.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from others and from validation, by looking for validation within others and defining validation in separation for myself as ‘something others must give me’ – instead of simply validating myself as being here – I am here – therefore, I exist, therefore I don’t need anyone else to ‘make me into someone’. Learn more »

This blog is a continuation of:
Day 30: Goodness as Positivity,
Day 31: You're My HERO!!!
Day 32: Consistency and
Day 33: Wanting to be the Star Pupil 
Day 34: Make a Happy Family
- continuing to purify the word 'Good'.


In my mind, I associate the word 'Good' with: 
 

Being Polite

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word ‘good’ within and as ‘being polite’ and ‘acting like a lady’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that being polite makes one a good/better person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to condition myself into believing that being polite is good in response to my parents becoming angry, embarrassed, ashamed whenever I acted/behaved in a way that was judged as impolite.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to try my best to ‘act like a lady’ because other grown-ups would pick up on ‘my good manners’ and compliment my parents for it and then they would be proud of me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to condition/compose my body in taking on the physical mannerisms and attitudes that are seen as polite.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that polite and impolite actually exist.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that impolite is a word created from the fear of being rejected and polite a word created from the desire to be accepted and that they don’t really mean anything other than that.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to kid myself into believing that I would change as a being and actually ‘become better’ if I just acted as a different character.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to practice to become the politeness character in order to gain positive responses and thus positive feelings and energy within myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to ingrain the politeness character into my physical, and thus – to actually, physically become it as I programmed my cells to be different to as convincingly as possible pretend to be someone I am not.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that politeness has nothing to do with who I am, because it is something that I forced unto myself in order to fit in.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself as a polite girl.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to act in a natural, comfortable way, out of fear of people judging me as impolite and judging me and from there, rejecting me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to give up my natural, comfortable self-expression to trade it with a physical character of politeness – entirely and completely restricting and suppressing who I am/my self-expression – betraying myself for the acceptance of others, without realising that I never needed/required another’s acceptance, but only required to accept myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to blame my parents for my self-constriction, self-limitation and self-suppression through teaching me to be polite – when it was me who accepted the instructions and willingly, motivatedly took it upon myself to become as polite as I could.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that especially girls should be polite and ‘lady-like’ – that for boys it is still acceptable if they speak/act in a loose and comfortable way, but that it is really inappropriate for a girl to ‘let go’ of her pose and composition.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to just swallow everything grown-ups told me about who to be and how to be, without looking at the points for myself in common sense – too blinded and consumed by the desire to be good, to be right, to be accepted, to be praised.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that woman should never be allowed to be comfortable and natural in their expression and their physical holding of themselves – because if they do, they are unattractive and no-one will want to marry them.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear that no-one would want to be with me/marry me if I didn’t apply and live the rules of politeness because my parents and other grown-ups would often say that if I continued to act like that, no guy would ever find me attractive.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to live my present in service of my future in trying to fulfill the picture I had in my mind of me getting married – and thus, tried to do everything I could to ensure this picture from becoming reality.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to sit with my legs crossed to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to sit with a straight back to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to eat with my mouth closed to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to eat without my elbows leaning on the table to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to smile as much as possible to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to nod my head and agree with people to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not hold my head up with my hands when sitting, to be good.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to drag my feet in order to be good.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to lean on things, in order to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to tuck my shirt in my pants to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to comb my hair to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to apologise before speaking in a group discussion to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to apologise to people when bumping into them to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to help someone when they drop something by helping them pick it back up, in order to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to give up my seat for an old person or pregnant woman on a bus, tram, metro or train, in order to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to ‘speak in two words’ – by always saying ‘yes, sir’ or ‘yes, mam’ instead of just ‘yes’ – in order to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to look people in the eye when they speak to me, in order to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to employ the socially accepted ways of greeting, thanking, excusing and saying goodbye, in order to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to greet people that my parents or siblings know when I cross them on the street, in order to be good.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to exhale/say ‘aaaaaah’ after drinking, in order to be good.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to slurp in order to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to take small bites and eat slowly, in order to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to monitor my food-intake and eat less than normal when in company of others, in order to be good.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise how much of what I thought was ‘who I am’ was merely a self-manufactured character of politeness that I used to not have people become offended with me, and thus, reject me and make me feel bad about their experience.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to take it personally when other people are offended with my behaviour. Learn more »