This blog-post is a continuation to:
Dag 62: De grens tussen droom en werkelijkheid
and
Day 63: Trading Reality for a Dream

When and as I see that someone is attempting to wake up and I am attempting to superimpose my dream unto reality - I stop, I breathe, I realise that I am trying to escape being self-resopnsible and therefore try to cling unto my dream so as to have the excuse that I was just in a mental state wherein was incapable of being self-responsible. Therefore, I commit myself to let go of the dream, breathe myself into my body, open my eyes, become aware of my environment and my physical body - and interact within the physical.

When and as I see myself, in the moment of waking up and being confused about what is dream and what is reality, yet having a slight awareness that I am in that moment waking up/being woken up and see myself leaning towards ignoring this awareness and choosing to be confused - I stop, I breathe - I realise that this is an act of deliberate spitefulness and dishonesty. Therefore, I commit myself to expand my self-awareness in one moment to encompass myself, my physical body and my physical environment.

When and as I see myself trying to use the excuse that I was not awake yet and therefore cannot be held accountable for my actions - I stop, I breathe - I realise that I am responsible for the very state of mind that I use as an excuse for my behaviour and thus, that ultimately, I am always responsible. Therefore, I commit myself to stop the excuse and take responsibility for who I was in the moment of waking up in the manner that is required to be done in the context of that specific moment.

When and as I see myself wanting to in some way hide from reality, myself and self-responsibility - I stop, I breathe - I realise that there is no way to escape reality, there is no way to escape myself and there is no way to escape self-responsibility and that any attempt to will merely create unpleasant consequences for me to face at a later time. Therefore - I commit myself to let go of the resistance towards self-responsibility and embrace it as who I am.

When and as I see myself playing with strands of information in my mind that I was presented with/studied during my day, in the moment before going to bed - I stop, I breathe - I realise that I don't require to hold on to the information for me to be able to access it. Therefore, I breathe and physically let go of the information and knowledge so that I am clear before going to bed and don't create any unnecessary experiences during my sleep or the next day, as well not creating unnecessary discomfort in my body where the information/knowledge would be stored.

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Question: 

Feelings are positive, emotions are negative. I can see how having an emotion is always a negative thing. But feeling happy about oneself is also a negative thing, is that true?

Perspective:

It's not that emotions and feelings are 'bad' things. When we say something is 'bad', we are really just assigning a negative charge to a word, or an event or a concept - when, in itself, the word/event/concept just is what it is.

So - why do we at Desteni investigate both our emotions as the negative experiences and our feelings as the positive experiences?

Emotions and feelings are energetic experiences. How does energy work? Energy - just as with electricity - always moves between opposite poles. On a battery you'll have a positive side, indicated with a '+' and a negative side, indicated with a '-'. Our Mind's energy operates in the exact same way - where it will always move from positive energetic charges, or feelings, to negative energetich charges, or emotions. That is why we are never just stable, but have 'ups and downs' - because the energy in our mind always has to switch between emotions and feelings.

So - what does this imply? It implies that emotions and feelings are dependent on one-another. Meaning: the emotion of hate must exist for the feeling of love to exist - the emotion of sadness must exist for the feeling of happiness to exist - because emotions and feelings co-exist in a relationship of polarity, and the one end of the polarity cannot exist without the other, opposite, end. In other words - we will never 'rid' ourselves of our negative energetic experiences if we want to hold on to the positive energetic experiences - because every time we participate in a positive energetic experience, we immediately create a negative energetic experience as well.

So - that explains why we investigate both emotions and feelings, as we cannot choose to keep one and do away with the other in terms of what emotions and feelings are by their very nature of polarity.

Now - some more on feelings. You will see/realise as you continue in your DIP course, that there is 'more to feelings than meets the eye'. What on the surface is experienced as something 'positive' or 'good' - actually indicates an aspect in yourself where you're 'lacking' something within yourself. This will be most easily explained with an example.

For instance - when we fall in love, we generally experience this as a positive/good thing - because it 'feels' good. We have love in our life, and all is wonderful and we feel fulfilled. However - this love is triggered by something outside of ourselves - we look for it in other people, in family, friends or a partner. But the underlying 'problem' so to speak - is that we are actually not loving ourselves. And because we don't love ourselves - we look for love elsewhere - through forming relationships with other people. And then we have an energetic experience that we call 'love' and we feel satisfied and fulfilled. But... as with all energetic experiences, this feeling of love will fade, or may even alter into an experience of resistance, disgust and even hatred.

So - what does the feeling of 'love' do? It gives us a 'quick-fix' - where we for a moment feel satisfied and fulfilled - but actually, what it does, is: make it so that we don't go and look deeper - to the origin of the feeling - which is the lack of love within ourselves - the lack of self-love. And this self-love is not just an energetic, fleeting experience. It is a living application in terms of how we treat ourselves and in terms of whether or not we accept and allow ourselves to be less than who we can be. This self-love is real love. And once we learn how to love ourselves - we can extend this love as an actual living application to others as well - where we can then live others as ourselves equally.

So - we're investigating feelings, because they 'hide' points of ourselves that require attention - and instead of 'settling' for merely fleeting positive energetic experience - we work towards fulfilling ourselves in a real and substantial way.

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