Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb aanvaard en toegestaan om te geloven dat ik enkel kan leren en studeren via de mind.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb aanvaard en toegestaan te geloven dat leren en studeren te maken heeft met het ‘vasthouden’ van en aan kennis.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf niet heb toegestaan en aanvaard te zien dat als ik aan iets vasthoudt, dat ik eigenlijk schrik heb om dat waar ik aan vasthoud, te verliezen.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb aanvaard en toegestaan om kennis te benaderen vanuit het startpunt van ‘gemis’ en angst voor gemis.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan om te studeren vanuit het startpunt van angst om te vergeten.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf niet heb toegstaan en aanvaard om te zien en mij te realiseren dat als ik iets aandachtig lees en ten volle begrijp, ik het meteen kan loslaten en dan terug oproepen, hier brengen, wanneer ik het nodig heb.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om te proberen kennis in mijzelf ‘op te slaan’ waarbij ik zoveel mogelijk in mijn mind en lichaam probeer te proppen, tot op het punt waar ik hoofdpijn krijg.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om de angst om te falen op een test te laten bepalen hoe ik studeer.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om schrik te hebben om te falen op tests en daarom te studeren vanuit het startput van vrees voor vergetigheid, waarbij ik het vergeten meteen creeer en mijn eigen potentieel en vaardigheid met betrekking tot perfect geheugen, ondermijn.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om te geloven dat een perfect geheugen onmogelijk is.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mijzelf te limiteren in en als de aanvaarding van het geloof dat een perfect gehuegen onmogelijk is.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mijzelf te beoordelen als onbekwaam in het hebben van een perfect geheugen.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard te geloven dat perfectie te veel gevraagd is en mijzelf hierin meteen te limiteren in elk opzicht, waarbij ik mijzelf nooit motiveer om mijn volle potentieel te vervulllen, ontwikkelen en uitdrukken.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om liever een imperfect geheugen te hebben en op de ‘traditionele’ manier te studeren waarbij ik zoveel mogelijk kennis en informatie in mijn hoofd prop, om niet het risico te lopen dat het hier brengen van informatie niet zal lukken, dat ik mij niets zal herinneren en dat ik zal falen op mijn test.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf niet heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mijzelf als mijn fysiek lichaam te vertrouwen in de bevoegdheid om mij alles te herinneren dat ik ooit gelezen, gehoord, gezien, gevoeld heb.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om stilletjes te hopen dat de methode van perfecte herinnering niet zal lukken, omdat ik niet will zien dat ik in mijn leven heel veel tijd verspild heb in het ‘vanbuiten leren’ en memorizeren van informatie en kennis.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om stilletjes te hopen dat de methode van perfecte herinnering niet zal lukken uit angst dat ik kwaad zal worden op mijzelf in de realisatie dat ik zoveel tijd in mijn leven heb verspeeld met het vanbuiten leren van teksten.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf niet heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mijzelf te vertrouwen in de bevoegdheid om dingen op een perfecte manier te herinneren, door het hier te brengen, en hierin een perfect geheugen te hebben.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard te geloven dat er een bepaalde grens of beperktheid bestaan in verband met hoeveel ik mij kan herinneren, in plaats van mij te realiseren dat ik de enige ben die mij deze limitaties en beperkingen oplegt.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf niet heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mezelf te vertrouwen in het gezond verstand dat alles hier is en dat, als ik hier ben, ik toegang heb tot alle informatie, maar liever vertrouw op mijn ‘gewone’ manier van studeren, omdat ik in mijn verleden vaak ‘gewonnen’ heb wanneer ik dingen doe op mijn ‘gewone’ manier.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mij te limiteren tot datgene wat mij het beste resultaat gaf in het verleden en niets anders te willen overwegen in het geloof dat het waarschijnlijk niet zal werken en dat ik geen kansen maar verkwisten door nieuwe dingen te proberen.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf niet heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mijzelf nieuwe kansen te geven om nieuwe dingen uit te proberen en ontwikkelen.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om te geloven dat als ik mijzelf een kans geven, ik mij op onzeker ijs bevind, waar ik blijkbaar aan het kansspelen ben en geen controle heb over de uitkomst van de situatie.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mijn leven en de uitkomst van mijn acties te proberen controleren.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mijzelf te definieren volgens de uitkomst van een actie, zoals het falen of slagen in een test, in plaats van mij te realiseren dat wie ik ben in dit moment het enige is wat telt.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf niet heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mijzelf te aanvaarden en respecteren om wie ik ben in elk moment, maar enkel omwille van ‘goede’ prestaties.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om mijzelf telkens weer te vast te klemmen in een situatie waar ik heel graag iets nieuws will proberen, maar tegelijkertijd gekweld ben met de angst dat het niet zal lukken of dat ik zal falen.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om nieuwe dingen te willen proberen op basis van de projectie dat de nieuwe aanpak of methode een goede/positive uitkomst zal hebben.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om niets nieuws te willen proberen op basis van de projectie dat de nieuwe aanpak of methode een slechte/negatieve uitkomst zal hebben.

Ik vergeef mijzelf dat ik mijzelf heb toegestaan en aanvaard om in angst te leven voor de toekomst door mijzelf steeds weer in de toekomst te projecteren, om op basis van de projectie beslissingen te maken in dit moment.

Als en wanneer ik zie dat ik aan het studeren ben vanuit het startpunt van angst voor verlies of gemis – stop ik, adem ik – ik sta mijzelf toe om de kennis los te laten in het vertrouwen dat ik het altijd terug hier kan brengen.

Ik realiseer mij en aanvaard dat wanneer ik iets aandachtig lees en ten volle begrijp, ik het mij altijd weer kan ‘herinneren’ op een later moment door het begrip weer hier te brengen.

Als en wanneer ik zie dat ik mijzelf projecteer in de toekomst om op basis van die projectie een beslissing te maken in het heden – stop ik, adem ik – ik kijk naar al de opties die er zijn in dit moment en zie wat de meest praktische oplossing is op dit moment, zonder mijzelf te laten beinvloeden door angst of verlangen.

Als en wanneer ik zie dat ik een keuze baseer op basis van wat ik ‘gewoon’ ben – stop ik, adem ik – ik realiseer mij dat ik probeer controle uit te oefenen op een bepaalde uitkomst, waar ik wil winnen, in plaats van te participeren. Ik sta mijzelf toe om alle mogelijke opties te overwegen en gezond verstand te gebruiken in het nemen van een praktisch besluit.

Ik zet mij in om mijn zelf-gecreeerde limitaties af te breken en mijzelf ten volle te ontwikkelen, ontdekken en uitdrukken.

Ik zet mij in om het onderwijs-systeem in de wereld te veranderen opdat kinderen zichzelf ten volle kunnen ontwikkelen, ontdekken en uitdrukken zonder beinvloed te worden door angst om te falen op een test.

Ik zet mij in om het levende woord te worden, waar ik niet simpelweg kennis en informatie na-papegaai, maar de woorden leef als mijzelf op een praktische manier.

Ik zet mij in om verantwoordelijkheid te nemen wanneer ik iets nieuw leer en de volle implicaties van de begrippen begrijp, om wat nog niet samengelijnd is met eenheid, gelijkheid en gezond verstand – te corrigeren in mijzelf en de wereld. Learn more »

Something that I tended doing a lot in the beginning of my process, was to try and find ‘The Point’ – and what I mean by that is: The One Point where I created a certain pattern as a child and then I tried to explain my entire life, all the choices and decisions I made, all my relationships, all my behaviours, etc. in the light of this one patter. I thought that there was this one point that would just explain it all – my ‘one point of self-dishonesty’.

With every ‘big point’ that I revealed of myself through writing and self-forgiveness I tried to use that one point to make sense of my entire life. Obviously, not everything you do can be explained through the participation in one singular pattern. For instance – I’d see that as a child I accepted the point of inferiority – then I’d go: “That explains EVERYTHING!!”  I defined all of my self-dishonesty in relation to the point of for instance inferiority and would only see myself from that starting point. So, I ended up making twisted connections and telling myself that ‘this is how I must have manifested that in my life!’ – just so that my ‘theory’ would fit the data as the actual experiences and events that took place. This would often result in sharp headaches, because all I was doing was manipulating/changing my memories of the actual events that took place so that the events could be explained through this one pattern – all, of course, in my mind.

I wanted to believe that I just needed to uncover ‘The One Point’ so that I would just need to be able to find a solution to this one point and then that would be the key to solve my entire existence – whoops, in one go – lol. In essence, I wanted to short-cut my process by only having to deal with one singular point. The reality is of course that there is a massive amounts of different points of self-dishonesty and patterns that were designed and accepted from early age and that were specified and adapted to be utilised in various different situations and scenarios over the years. Each point has various layers and each point has various dimensions.

So – instead of just investigating each point for what it was and actually supporting myself to write specific Self-Forgiveness and design specific Corrections for each point – I would just ‘shove’ that point under the skirt of another point, saying that “this point is just an outflow of ‘my one point’, therefore, I have already dealt with this and I’ve already got the solution to it – I don’t have to spend time investigating it”.

I’ve always liked the idea of neatness and logic – and how neat would it be that there was just one causal point and that any other point is just a logical outflow of this causal point. And so – if I remove the cause, everything else just disappears, because the foundation was removed – Poof! Just like that!

Yeah, well… process doesn’t work that way – lol.

Also – the idea that I understood my entire life made me feel like I had more control over it. If something can be understood, categorised, classified, analysed, I’d always feel like a sense of relief – that it wasn’t too overwhelming, because I could understand it. The fact that I wanted to have a form of control over my life, my past, my experiences indicates that I was afraid of it and that I felt overwhelmed by the idea of having to sort out my past in absolute detail and specificity. I was afraid of it, because I felt like if there’s a point in my past that I don’t know about, that I don’t understand, that I can’t ‘place’ within myself – it might just come to haunt me and I won’t know what to do.

So, here goes the Self-Forgiveness:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to try to uncover ‘the one point’ of self-dishonesty that would somehow give me clarity and insight into my entire existence.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that such a ‘one point’ exists.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to want for such a ‘one causal point’ to exist so that my process will be quick and easy, because I felt overwhelmed by the idea of having to investigate and sort through my life in absolute detail and specificity – and then also redesign myself in absolute detail and specificity – but instead rather just having to deal with one point and only having to design a solution for this one point.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel intimidated by a maze of unknown points, systems and patterns – feeling and believing that they are more than me, too much for me and that I could never take on a project that requires absolute dedication and discipline to complete.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to actually make my process take longer, because every time a point presented itself, I would just categorise it underneath another point, making up ways that this new point I am facing is an outflow of a point that I’ve already faced and manipulating my memories in the process – herein not actually facing the point, releasing it and correcting it – therefore, having to each time face the point again so that I could actually face it.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to – due to the belief that I can’t do something and due to the fear that I won’t be able to do it properly – immediately accept a state of laziness, where I do things half-assed, pretending to deal with a point, making myself feel like I dealt with a point, when actually I would just ignore it and dismiss it as something I have already dealt with.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to actually assist and support myself within process, but merely want to feel like I’m done so that I can go and enjoy myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear being haunted by my past.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my past and that my past will repeat itself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to try to control myself, my life and my future through knowledge about what happened and what I’ve done in my life, so that I can feel prepared to deal with whatever may come in the future.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear facing myself out of fear of seeing who I am and what I’ve done.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that knowledge is the final stop – that once I have knowledge and understanding of a point – then that’s it and then I am no longer controlled by it, instead of realising that I require to release the point through self-forgiveness as well as redesign and correct myself through self-corrective statements and corrective action.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to want everything to be neat, logical and organised so that I can feel in control and in power.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to try and make sense of my reality, my past and my points, instead of seeing them for what they so that I’m able to practically and effectively direct them.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that it is bad to have many points of self-dishonesty to uncover and that if I just have one point to face, then that makes me a better person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to be a bad person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word ‘bad’ to fear.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word ‘self-dishonest’ to the words ‘bad’ and ‘fear’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to – when a point comes up – immediately assume that I’ve already applied the SF on that point and that I can just go on through breathing – instead of making sure that I am not facing a different dimension of a certain point.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to think and believe that it is a waste of time to apply self-forgiveness on the same point several times.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that I can never apply too much self-forgiveness.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see process as a quick-fix solution – thinking and believing that I must just find the main switch and turn it off – and then live happily ever after.

When and as I see myself wanting to dismiss a point as something I have already dealt with – I stop, I breathe – I bring the point before me, I investigate all its dimensions and check that I have released all of it effectively through self-forgiveness. If not – I apply self-forgiveness to release the point and write self-corrective statements to design the solution as self-correction.

When and as I see myself becoming overwhelmed by something that looks messy, complicated or extensive – I stop, I breathe – I realise that I don’t require taking on the whole thing at once, but simply take on one part/point/aspect at a time and move myself breath by breath until it is done.

When and as I see myself being lazy and not applying myself effectively – I stop, I breathe – I realise that I am simply making my process take longer, because if I do something half-assed I’ll just have to do it over again at a later stage until I do it properly – therefore, I push and direct myself to fully engage in the present moment and apply myself to the best of my ability.

When and as I see myself trying to make sense of a point within my mind through making up ‘links’ and ‘connections’ and ‘causal relationships’ – I stop, I breathe – I realise that I am not actually assisting and supporting myself, but actually resist facing the point – therefore, I bring the point here and face it for what it is. Learn more »

Yesterday I made mayonnaise for the first time. I’ve eaten mayonnaise my whole life. I used to be very peculiar about what foods I liked and which I didn’t and Gabriel, my brother, showed me how, if you just cut up everything in your plate, add mayonnaise and then mash it all together, it suddenly becomes a lot tastier – lol. In all those years, however, I never bothered to find out what mayonnaise is, what’s in it or how it’s made. You buy mayonnaise in the shop, you open it, you eat it – that’s what I knew about it. My grandmother used to make mayonnaise once in a while – I thought that because she’s very skilled with cooking that she can do something like that. For some reason I thought it would be very difficult to make.

So, yesterday I try out a recipe for mayonnaise. I basically had to chuck a very small amount of ingredients in a jug and then mix them together. For the most part, it consisted of egg yolk and vegetable oil. When I saw the ingredients in the jug I was like “huh, how is that ever going to turn out like mayo?'”Anyhow, I continued to follow the recipe’s instructions by first holding the blender to the bottom of the jug and mixing for 15 seconds. Already after a few seconds the ‘liquidy’ mix started turning into a more jelly-like substance. I was like WOOOOW! I had no idea that THAT’s how they made mayonnaise. It was like magic! It was suddenly just there. It took me 2 minutes to make the mayo – and it was pretty damn good too.

What I want to get to is the following: I’m part of a quick-fix generation. We buy stuff and we consume it. Firstly, we have no idea where it comes from, how it’s produced or what the hidden processes and consequences of the products are. Secondly, the idea is created that various things are very difficult to do – just because we don’t know how to do it. We don’t know how to build a house, we don’t know how to fix machines, we don’t know how to tile a floor, we don’t know how to make furniture, we don’t know how to slaughter and process chickens, hell – we don’t even know how to make fucking mayo!

We’re so used to having other people worry about that stuff for us, that we’ve become completely clueless – to the point where we think that the only way that we can eat mayo is to go and buy it in a shop. If I had known how easy and fun it is to make, I would’ve never bought mayo. Why would you choose to buy ‘Miracle Whip’ – when you can just whip up the miracle right in front of you!

And mayo is not the big deal – it’s the fact that we take everything for granted. We just accept the idea that ‘we can’t do it’ or ‘it’s too difficult’ – when it’s really not. If you go and take the time to make your hands dirty and get to know how shit gets done – you become skilled at it and you realise it’s really no biggy. All our lives we’ve been catered for and have really become lazy, oblivious and clueless little creatures. It seems silly, but when I made the mayonnaise I felt so much shame – because this thing that I had been consuming my whole life of which I thought it must take a lot of skill to make, I whipped up in a matter of minutes. It just showed me the extent in which I’ve denied myself the opportunities to be a part of this world by not allowing myself to practically participating in it.

My generation is not a generation of participation – it’s a generation of consumers. We don’t participate in the production process, we don’t participate in anything that has something to do with what makes this physical world go ‘round. Even if our job has something to do with producing particular goods – then those goods is mostly all we know about and everything else remains a big mystery. We’ve completely separated ourselves from the world we live in – limited our existence to being mere consumers of it. Even in the bible it doesn’t say that God left the Earth in the hands of man so that man can consume it – we’re supposed to take care of it, be a part of it – and we’re not.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to be a part of this world.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to participate in this world.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to limit my existence in this world to that of being a consumer of it, instead of a participant.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to deny myself the opportunity to investigate how the world works, but instead just took everything for granted and counted on others to cater for me, presenting me with everything I need so that I can just consume it.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be brainwashed into believing that everything that I don’t know about is too hard for me to know, understand or take part in.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to completely separate myself from the world around me – only participating in that which gives me immediate satisfaction.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see the world as a big mystery and to be content just living my life oblivious in terms of how this world works and what my actions contribute to as consequences manifested from the world.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to take the physical for granted, while the physical has been the one and only consistent thing that has always supported me and that has always supported every single being, no matter who they are, no matter what they do – unconditionally.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to learn about and learn from the physical to see how I’m able to improve myself – but instead entertain myself with fleeting thoughts, emotions, feelings, memories, sensations in my mind, looking for interesting experiences, where I reduce myself to but a fleeting moment, a fleeting thought, a fleeting emotion, a fleeting feeling, a fleeting memory or a fleeting sensation – instead of supporting myself to become substantial, consistent, supportive.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to enslave the physical to the mental realm of the mind – utilising what the physical unconditionally provides for the purpose of satisfying my mental desires and wants for the sake of interesting and momentarily satisfying experiences.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to reduce myself to becoming a clueless, oblivious creature.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to limit myself through accepting the belief that I should only investigate how things work when it directly affects my current experience.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be directed and controlled by experiences and the desire and want for interesting experiences.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see myself as inferior to the world – thinking and believing that I am but a tiny spec of dust in the big scheme of things and therefore, there is no way that I can ever stand equal and one to the world, there is no way that I can ever understand the world and there is no way that I can ever fully participate in the world.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing comfort to override practical common sense – where I rather buy something that is already made for me – instead of producing the good myself, where I then learn about how the good is produced, what points are involved, where I am completely aware of what the good consists of, where it comes from and where I can ensure that the good is of the best quality possible.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to buy into the claim that capitalism ensures the best quality of goods for the least amount of resources due to competition, instead of realising that profit is the sole goal for agents in capitalism and that a client or consumer’s well-being is of no concern to them.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to enslave myself to the capitalist system, merely through accepting the one belief that “I can’t do it myself”.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to chronically underestimate myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to accept the belief that “I can’t do it myself” before even trying or investigating what is involved.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to support slavery and inequality through accepting and allowing the thought and idea that “others can and are willing to make their hands dirty for me – why should I then bother with it?”

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to support the elite in this world through accepting and allowing the attitude within myself that someone else will do things for me and that I must just worry about making myself comfortable.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to immediately go into an anxious reaction whenever I am challenged to do something knew – due to immediately accepting the belief that “I can’t do it'” and “I will fail at it”.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to use the statement “I can’t do it” and “It’s too difficult” as an excuse to not try new things for myself, out of fear of failing.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to apply the common sense that I cannot know the outcome of an attempt before having actually attempted it.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear failing and failure.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that someone in the dark is keeping score of my achievements and failures – and that they will determine who I am and where I end up – whether in this life or the next.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear the consequence of getting bad grades.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing the education system to brainwash me into believing that grades and scores determine who I am, what I am capable of and what type of life I will lead.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to – when I try to do my best – to do it out of fear of being judged on something like ‘judgment day’ or ‘karma’ – an invisible authority that will determine my fate – instead of realising that it is common sense to do something to the best of my ability, otherwise I’m just wasting my own time.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to subjugate myself to fear in a moment of being challenged to do something new, wherein I immediately give in to resistance – instead of taking on the challenge as a way to expand and perfect myself.

When and as I see myself feeling intimidated by something unknown – I stop, I breathe – I realise that the experience of intimidation stems from the mere belief that everything that is unknown is somehow bigger than me. Instead – I direct myself to stand equal and one to the point in the unknown, so that it becomes known, so that it is here as me – and from there I move as it, equal and one, a real participant in the world.

When and as I see myself being lazy and thinking that someone else can do it for me – I stop, I breathe – I realise that I am diminishing myself in that moment as well as supporting the entire construct of elite versus slaves in the world. Instead, I move myself to address the issue at hand myself – moving myself to participate and take responsibility for the point that presented itself in that moment.

When and as I see myself taking things for granted – I stop, I breathe – I realise that, through taking it for granted, I have separated myself from it. Instead, I move myself to investigate the particular point and in a way incorporate it into myself, as myself and I allow myself to be grateful for what is here as unconditional support form the physical, as well as seeing how I can apply in and for myself what the physical is doing automatically. Learn more »

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire to lead a ‘normal’ ordinary life.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing the desire to lead a normal ordinary life to exist as a backdoor within me to not complete my process, but walk away from any responsibilities.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to want to walk away from responsibilities, because I believe that having responsibilities makes my life hard and difficult.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that responsibilities in and of themselves are not hard and difficult, it is only the resistance of taking responsibility and the fear of not being effective within my responsibilities that create the perception that the responsibilities within and of themselves are hard and difficult.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear being ineffective within my responsibilities.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to fail within my responsibilities.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect leading an ordinary life to a life without stress, expectations or responsibilities.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that beings leading a ‘standard’ life in terms of job, partner, kids don’t experience stress, don’t have to deal with expectations and don’t feel burdened with responsibilities.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing the desire to live an ordinary life to exist as a temptation in the back of my mind, as a voice saying: ‘you don’t have to do this, you know, you could just do what eeeeeverybody else does: just sit back and enjoy the ride!’

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that it is easier to live life with my mind being in control.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to want to abdicate any responsibility towards life, to my mind.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that it is hard to direct myself and apply myself consistently within the process of stopping the mind and creating and designing myself to be and become a living expression that is actually worthwhile living.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to – when I think of just giving it all up and going to lead an ‘ordinary life’ – feel as though a weight lifts off my shoulders and I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that leading an ordinary life has actually something to do with this experience of relief.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to romanticise ‘the ordinary life’ in my mind through picturing it as a peaceful and quiet existence, while I come from an ordinary life and it was anything but peaceful and quiet – it was filled with confusion, conflict, frustration and depression.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I can change my lifestyle in such a way that I won’t have to take responsibility or face confusion, conflict, frustration and depression.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that no matter what ‘type’ of life I lead – I am the one leading it, I take myself with me – and thus, no matter where I am, I will always have to face myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to wish that I could just forget about everything I have learned in the past few years so that I could go back to a life of ‘blissful ignorance’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that a life of bliss actually exists in this world.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that the voice in my mind tempting me to simply walk away and take the ‘easy road’ is not real, but merely a program of the mind, designed to keep me enslaved to my mind, to ensure that I never actually realise myself, that I never actually stand up.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing backdoors to exist within and as me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to sabotage myself through accepting and allowing backdoors to exist within and as me.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to just breathe through these ‘thoughts of temptation’, but instead participate in them, consider them and empower them – and in that kid and con myself into a state of delusion.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be willing to consider to allow just one thought to throw me off my feet.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to consider that a thought is superior to me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that thoughts are superior to me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that my thoughts know what’s best for me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that my mind knows what’s best for me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to trust my mind absolutely.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to have developed my most intimate and trusting relationship with my mind while completely disregarding myself or the actual physical reality.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define intimacy within having secret thoughts in my mind – where it’s ‘just me and my thoughts’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that intimacy exists within hiding secrets and having backchat.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to be intimate with myself and develop a consistent effective intimate relationship with myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that my mind has always been there for me and that it has ‘proven itself trustworthy’ over time – where my mind has proven ‘useful’ in deceiving others in order to control the situation and manipulate it to what I want to experience/have happen.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define effective relationships in terms of their ability to ensure my survival as a mind and mind-personality.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect a positive experience to the words ‘ordinary life’.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that to stop an uncomfortable experience of myself is to run away.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that I cannot run away from myself and I cannot escape from myself.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that actively participating in the process of stopping the mind is actually taking the easy road and that if I feel/experience it as though I am taking the hard road, it is merely because I am not applying myself effectively, where I allow thoughts, resistance, backchat and fear to determine my experience of myself – instead of facing and investigating the points in detail and specificity, to stop the automated behaviours in and of the mind, to make way for myself to be able to effectively and consistently apply myself and participate within the physical reality.

When and as I see myself considering to walk away from my process and my responsibilities, to instead take the easy road – I stop, I breathe – I realise that my process and the responsibilities are not the problem, but that I am the problem – therefore, I direct myself to investigate any thoughts, backchat, resistance or fear in relation to walking my process or my responsibilities to then clear then with Self-Forgiveness and redirect myself with Self-Corrective Statements.

I commit myself to the process of assisting and supporting myself to stop any mind-interference with my life, with all life – to create a world where beings are able to fully, unconditionally and effectively express themselves and co-exist with each other. Learn more »

With this blog I am starting a 7 Year Journey to Life. One blog a day for 7 years, wherein I write myself out and let go of mind-patterns through using Self-Forgiveness, as well as creating the solution through Self-Corrective Statements, wherein I prepare myself to walk the change.

The first thought that popped into my head in relation to starting the 7 Year Journey was: I’ll never keep it up, I shouldn’t be doing this, because I won’t pull it through in any case. With this one thought – I indicated that I wanted to give up before I had even started! This is a recurring pattern in my life, where I only want to take on projects or endeavours where I am pretty much nearly 100% certain that I will be successful at it. And if I doubt myself in being able to pull something off, I’ll rather not start it in order to avoid feeling like a failure.

So, here goes:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to think that I’ll never keep up a 7 year commitment to blog each day.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to – before having even started – project what the outcome of this endeavour would be, and in imagining myself being inconsistent and eventually giving up – I believe that this is what will happen and therefore, instead of walking the process in the physical, I immediately give up then and there, to not give myself a chance to ‘screw up’.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that when I undertake a new project or endeavour, that I should be perfect at it from the start until the end – not allowing myself to process of learning from my mistakes and perfecting myself as I walk.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself as someone who can undertake and complete a project with great ease and to not defy that definition of myself, I will simply avoid any projects where I feel like I may possible fail.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself in terms of past memories where as a chid I would do things with great ease and everyone around me would be stunned at how easily I would complete a project or task.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself according to how other people see me and believe that if others start seeing me differently, that then I will lose myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear others starting to see me differently if I were to stumble and struggle to complete a project or endeavour.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I have to live up to the standard others hold me to in order not to lose myself, my self-worth and my self-esteem.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself, my self-worth and my self-esteem in how others judge me and to what extent they see me as worthy.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to fail.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see failing as a definitive point where – if I fail, it is too late, I am a failure and there is nothing I can do to redeem myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to fail in the eyes of others.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that stumbling and struggling is a part of learning a particular skill – where, as i stumble and struggle, I see where and how I can become more effective and thus, as I walk, I assist and support myself to expand, grow and excel.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to expand, grow and excel through only ever doing that which I know I’m good at.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to unconditionally undertake a new project or endeavour, but only do it in terms of what people will think of me if I pull it off and whether they will hold me in high esteem or not.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to exist in an illusionary realm where ‘who I am’ is someone who doesn’t make mistakes – instead of embracing the reality of the situation – that I am nowhere near perfect and I stumble, struggle and make mistakes in the process of learning and developing new skills.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that stumbling, struggling and making mistakes are bad things.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge stumbling, struggling and making mistakes as bad things.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to sabotage myself through holding unrealistic expectations of myself and if ever I may possible not answer to these expectations, sell myself short in giving up before I’ve started to not have to face any regret or shame.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to face regret or shame.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that regret is an indicator that I am wallowing in self-pity over something I have done in the past, instead of forgiving myself, learning from the mistake and practically designing a solution to not make the same mistake again.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that shame is an indicator that I have sabotaged myself in a certain point and that I therefore require to investigate what I did it, how I did it and why I did it to be able to release the point in question and script a solution for myself for if I were to find myself in the same or a similar situation again.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to trust myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to always want to make sure that I will be right before I do something, or that what I’ll be doing will be successfully executed and I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that knowing that I will be successful is what self-trust is.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to expand self-trust to being sure that I will be here for myself no matter what and that I will learn from my mistakes and my past, assisting and supporting myself to expand, grow and excel to the point where I am certain that I am absolutely specific and effective in a particular point.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to make up all kinds of excuses to justify why I it is okay for me to give up before I’ve even started a project so that I can feel like I did the right thing, while all the while I can self-honestly see that I am deceiving myself – but just to ‘shut myself up’, I’ll give myself all kinds of reasons to ‘prove’ and convince myself that I am doing the right thing.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to manipulate myself to a point of giving up by bringing up all kinds of memories from the past where I feel like I failed and where I felt hopeless and helpless as a way of convincing myself that if I take on the particular project before me – I will feel the same way and there will be nothing I can do to change myself, my experience, or my situation.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that resistance is a program that kicks in whenever I am standing in front of a transcendence point.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to – in giving in to the resistance – state that resistance is more than me, that my mind is more than me and that I will forever more be a slave to my mind and existence as it is – accepting that I will never and can never change or take responsibility for myself.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that resistance is merely a program that I can push through to be able to face myself, my reality, my relationships and create a version of myself, my reality and my relationships that is actually best for all.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that in giving in to resistance and making up excuses and justifications for why I shouldn’t push through, I am actually arguing for my own self-limitation.

I realise that resistance is an indicator that shows me that I am standing in front of a transcendence point, that it is merely a program that I can push and move myself through to allow myself to expand and improve myself to a point of absolute self-equality and oneness.

I realise that there is no valid excuse or justification for selling myself short and accepting self-limitation.

I realise that mistakes, stumbles and struggles don’t mean the end of an endeavour and a definitive failure – instead, they are points along the road in the journey to life.

When and as I see myself resisting to commit to a certain project or endeavour, I stop, I breathe – I realise I am standing in front of a transcendence point and that the experience is not real but merely an automated program of the mind – therefore, I push through the resistance and unconditionally commit myself to the project or the endeavour within the starting point of giving it all I’ve got.

When and as I see myself making up excuses and justifications for why I should or shouldn’t do something – I stop, I breathe – I look at what it is that I am resisting and afraid of, I apply the forgiveness, let go of the fear and embrace the new challenge before me.

When and as I see myself projecting myself into the future, imagining that I will fail at a project or endeavour that I haven’t even started yet – I stop, I breathe – I remind myself that I am not a fortune-teller and that it is unacceptable to sell myself short. Instead – I bring myself back here and practically move myself to undertake and complete the project or endeavour to the best of my ability. Learn more »

In the Post Office at the mall today, there was a woman and her 2 or 3 year-old daughter. They had a big shopping trolley with them. At some point, the trolley fell on top of the little girl. As I heard the noise, I turned around and I saw I was closest, so I stepped over and lifted the trolley up so the girl could get from underneath it. As the girl got up, she started crying and crying. The mother immediately picked her up and held her tight against her, talking to her and trying to comfort her. The girl was physically fine.

So – that’s the basics of the event that took place. Now let’s slow down on some points and have a closer look.


After I’d picked up the trolley and I heard the girl starting to cry, I immediately reacted with anxiety, fear and a form of panic. I wondered for a moment if there was something I could do for the girl, how I was able to help her – but realised that since I wasn’t stable in that moment, I wouldn’t be much help. There was already a lot of energy moving around and I figured that if I’d try to jump in as well, getting involved while reacting – and thus throwing in my energies into the mix as well – I’d just be throwing oil on the fire. So, I stepped back into the queue I was previously standing in and didn’t further participate.

Also – as I saw the mother’s reaction of immediately picking up the child and comforting her, I wondered if that was really a good idea. As soon as I heard the girl starting to cry – my first instinct was the same – get to the girl and comfort her asap!! Lol.But I’ve recently been watching the TV-show 'The Dog Whisperer’ with Cesar Millan and he explains how – when you give a dog affection, you’re always nurturing the state of mind the dog is in at the time you give the dog affection. So – if your dog is aggressive and you pet him to try and calm him down – you’re actually, from his perspective, supporting his aggression and encouraging him. Or – when your dog is scared or shy and you pick up your dog to make them feel ‘safe’ – you’re actually nurturing the dog’s fear and shyness. Which makes total sense – I mean, the only way your dog is going to get over his fear, is if he faces it. By picking him up, you’re just giving him a place to hide from whatever it is that he’s afraid of.

So – as soon as I saw the mother pick up her child as it was crying, I looked at it the same was as with a dog. The message she was giving to her child was that crying is a good way to deal with a situation like this.

And – regardless of this dog psychology perspective – when you look at it from the mother’s perspective: was she trying to help her child or herself? In that moment of seeing her child underneath the trolley (which was luckily empty, btw) in between all those people – what was going through her mind? Fear of the girl being hurt, embarrassment, fear of people thinking she’s a bad mother and a whole lot of guilt because this happened on her watch. So – if I look at it – the point of her ‘trying to calm down her daughter’ was for a big part based in self-interest. She had to show the people around her that she cared, she had to make her daughter stop crying asap so that the people would stop looking/judging and so that she can feel better about the event. Because if the girls stops crying, then surely she didn’t get hurt that bad and she doesn’t need to feel so guilty.

So – considering those two points: the mother’s starting point for her action as well as the message she was giving to her daughter: I’d say it wasn’t the most practical/best for all solution. Rather – make sure that you’re calm first as a mother. You can’t expect to calm someone else down, if you’re not calm, stable and assertive yourself. Just as a dog can pick up on what it is you’re experiencing – so can human beings on some level, and children are more sensitive to it. So – to calm a child down, the best thing you can do, is to calm yourself down first lol. In participating in the whole commotion by letting your fears and emotions run rampant, you’re merely participating in your daughter’s fearful and emotional state and thus – only feeding that experience.

Then – the point of holding the child is also not really advised. The same example as I gave with the dog: if you give the dog a hiding place, then the dog is merely hiding from his fear. In embracing/holding your child, you’re giving her a place to hide and suppress the experience – instead of allowing the child to see what happened, check if she’s okay and realise that if she’s okay, then it wasn’t all that bad – and next time, she’ll know not to do whatever it is she did to get the trolley on top of herself.

So – I would suggest to everyone to watch ‘The Dog Whisperer’ as Cesar Millan gives some cool, simple perspective in terms of how our inner experience influences the experience and behaviour of the beings around you and how, if you’re not calm and assertive – you can’t be a directive point in your world – instead: something or someone else will direct you.

For more support on how to develop the common sense to see how to direct yourself and others in daily life – join www.desteniiprocess.com or see us at the forum at www.desteni.org/forum. Learn more »

(The following is a response I wrote to one of my trainees in Desteni I Process, in relation to write effective self-corrective statements.)

"I NO LONGER SEEK VALIDATION FROM THE IDEA OF FAMILY OR FRIENDS AS BEING SPECIAL

I STOP ALL IDEAS OF VALIDATION FROM FAMILY OR FRIENDS AS BEING SPECAIL

I NOW LET GO OF THE FAMILY AND FRIEND CONSEPT AS THE ENSLAVEMENT OF SELF"

The three self-corrective statements above have not been scripted effectively. They are statements that indicate that from here on out, you’ll never do this, this, this, this, this again – this is not something you can guarantee for yourself and the process of stopping the mind doesn’t work that way – where you decide in a moment never to think/feel/experience something again and then it will magically be gone.

The process of stopping the mind is done whenever something comes up that you’ve already taken responsibility for, applied SF on and you understand exactly what the thought/ emotion/ feeling/ memory ‘means’ to your mind and where it will take you if you follow it. When such a thought/ emotion/ feeling/ memory comes up – in that moment, you stop and don’t go there and don’t follow the thought/ emotion/ feeling/ memory/ experience/… through not participating in it. So – it is a process walked breath by breath, moment by moment. Your mind’s systems and constructs will slowly but surely get less and less attention and energy as you walk and apply your self-corrections and eventually they will simply stop.

In order to assist ourselves in applying the self-corrective actions of stopping our participation in the mind – we write out self-corrective statements in the form of a script to apply when you are faced with a point in the future again. Writing out self-corrective statements in the form of ‘I no longer seek validation from the idea of family or friends as being special’ is not actually assisting you in your process of stopping your mind, because they are ‘too vast’ and it is quite possible that you’ll see yourself looking for validation from family and friends again and – according to your SCS, that would mean you’ve failed, and it creates a point of self-judgment and losing trust in yourself. When, in fact, seeing yourself looking for validation from family and friends, is not a ‘problem’ in itself – if this was a pattern you’ve lived out throughout your life, it is quite likely it will repeat and come up several times during your process. The question is not whether it occurs again – the question is: When it occurs – who are you within that?

That is why we suggest to write out SCS in the form of:

“When and as I see myself looking for validation from friends and family for being special, I (self-correction).”

Why? Because such a statement will practically assist you in the event of the pattern coming up again, and such a moment is an opportunity for you to correct yourself. It is those moments, where you know where a pattern will take you – because you have already investigated it through writing and self-forgiveness – that you have real choice. Because – in having seen and understood your past, you can see your future. And if you’ve seen your future, you can change it. So – those moments, where you see yourself participating in old patterns of thoughts, emotions, feelings, etc. – those moments are the moments where you have a real choice and those are the moments where you have power – power over yourself and your future.

Therefore, since the process of stopping mind-patterns is a gradual one – where, in each moment of choice, we take our power back – it is suggested not to write statements wherein you state that you will ‘no longer’ do something or ‘now stop’ a pattern ‘for good’. Instead – understand and accept how the resurfacing of old patterns as thoughts, emotions, feelings, memories, etc. – are a doorway of opportunity. Each time you direct yourself not to participate in your old mind-patterns, you diminish the extent of the power this pattern has over you. And so you continue, breath by breath, moment by moment, until the pattern has no more power to fuel its existence and as such, stops existing. Learn more »

Before I was introduced to Desteni, I was – together with my brother and sister – busy researching and investigating anything there was to know about secret societies, the elite, the Illuminati, etc. The more I heard and read about them, the more I became angry and upset and the more I wanted to ‘find those bastards’ and ‘give them what they deserve’. In my view, they were the cause of all evil in the world. I tried to tell people about them, so that they would be aware of those powerful beings who seemed to govern everything of our world, but most people didn’t take it seriously – which I found very frustrating!

Some wouldn’t hear any of it, saying it was just fairytales, others said it was possible, but weren’t convinced, others said: “And if it were so, what are you going to do about it?” This one was tough – because I had no idea what I, or anyone else, could do about it! My plan of action was to: make people aware. But once they were aware of it, then what? This made me even more angry and frustrated, and made me feel powerless on top.

At Desteni (www.desteniiprocess.com)  I was invited to consider the whole conundrum from a different perspective. They simplistically referred to the principle of oneness and equality and explained how what exists within the outer world, is merely a manifested reflection of what exists within and as ourselves; the ‘outside world’ is equal and one to each one’s ‘inner world’.

This changed the whole situation, because I could no longer be angry with the secret societies. How can I be angry with secret societies, if I allow secret thoughts within myself? But, more importantly – I was no longer frustrated, because I now had been given the key to creating the solution; through correcting that which I don’t like in the outer world, within myself. From feeling powerless, I now saw how to empower myself…

As I started applying the tools of self-forgiveness, breathing and self-corrective application, I realised how being angry with secret societies and conspiracies, is just a waste of time. The world is what it is due to how we have collectively allowed it to exist. Therefore, we cannot change the world if we don’t first change ourselves – despite the world.

This is how we are able to practically take responsibility for this world – through taking responsibility for ourselves in correcting that which we don’t like in the outer world, within ourselves first. From there – we move, we express, we create: equal and one as who we are.

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Last night, we were chatting about how this life is our last one and that our application in this life will determine whether we ‘make it’ or not, opening up all the fears, resistances, etc. in relation to that point and applying self-forgiveness on it. During the chat, the point for me opened up of “why would I apply myself if I am probably not going to experience the ‘end-result’ as a world of equality” – which is a statement of giving up before I’ve even tried/started and an indication of how conditioned I am to only do something when I expect to experience a ‘positive outcome’ as a ‘reward’ – instead of moving unconditionally according to what I see and understand is necessary/practical to be done in a moment.

After chat, later that night, I watched the movie ‘Centre Stage’, which is a dance movie. Whenever I watch a movie like that, I go thinking about how I want to be a professional dancer one day. Now, it’s pretty clear to me that I won’t be fulfilling this dream of mine in this lifetime, because it’s not practical within the process we’re walking and where I’ve placed myself to be effective. So, the thought I would always use to ‘appease’ these thoughts was that “I’ll do it in a later lifetime”. This was however not possible after the chat we’d just had about how this was our last life, so more points came up of thinking that “it’s not fair that this is my last life, because how am I supposed to fulfil my personal dreams now??”

Then, this morning I was writing self-forgiveness on purifying the word ‘cancer’ and in that I was writing self-forgiveness on the point of fear of death. As I was writing about the point of fear of death, the points of last night of the last life and wanting to fulfil my personal dreams re-surfaced.

So – below are the self-forgiveness and self-corrective statements I applied on the points that opened up. Enjoy:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to lose all my memories of what I have done and experienced in this lifetime.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself, my life and my ‘achievements’ within memory – within memories of people and events and actions.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself and my achievements within what exists around me, outside of me – when it is about who I am here in every moment and not about what I create outside from myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to lose awareness of myself as a personality/individual.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I need/require my memories in order to be me and to continue to be me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear/believe that I won’t have enough time in one lifetime to transcend everything and therefore, think that I might as well give up now, so that, at the end of my lifetime, I don’t have to feel like a failure – when actually I am deciding to live a life of failure right here and now, and accept myself as that and nothing more.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear that I won’t make it at the end of my time.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that when the time is here, it will be irrelevant whether I make it or not, because if I don’t make it, I am simply gone – and in that, the point is forgiving and merciful, because there is no restitution/punishment – you simply end.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to constantly try to validate why the things I enjoy in my personal life are important to all because I don’t want to give up those parts of my life/my world – such as dancing.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to exist as a ‘I want to dance’ personality.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to think that, because this is my last life, I should make the most out of it by doing what I want to do and not what is best for all – because I probably won’t make it anyways.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold on to the want/dream to be a perfect/amazing professional dancer some day and therefore not want to accept the last life principle, because I realise that it is unlikely I’ll be dancing in this lifetime – therefore wanting more lifetimes so that at least in one of them I can live out my dream of being a perfect/amazing professional dancer.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that my time is over and gone – I didn’t make it in that point – I’m walking a different path now, but I can assist in creating a world wherein it becomes easier for other beings to live and become what it is they enjoy to do/be, as long as it does not harm others.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that my life is not my own and that my experiences are not only mine – in the sense that they are relevant towards all beings; I can use my experiences to learn from them and see what is necessary to be done so that no-one else requires to go through that.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that I didn’t live my life so that I can fulfil my personal dreams, but so that I gain perspective on how the world works and the effect it has on people’s lives.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I have a right to personally experience what it is I have always dreamt of.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from past generation and future generations.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be jealous of future generations and the world they might someday experience as the world created within this generation and the ones to come.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to be willing to do something that I might not see the end of, even if I see/understand and realise that it’s the only way.

I forgive myself for not being grateful for my lifetime, who I am, what I’ve done and what I’m still busy doing.

I forgive myself for being jealous of the lifetimes others will have.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to be grateful for myself.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that I would’ve wanted people before me to do what I necessary to be done so that I as part of the future generation could’ve experienced a different world.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to will myself to do what is best for all if I won’t be ‘rewarded’ for it.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to accept the programming of conditioning, whereby I only do something out of motivation of what will follow after I do it – either punishment or reward.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to enslave myself to motivation and believe that I need/require proper motivation to do what is needed to be done.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to limit myself in the belief that I need/require motivation as fuel to move myself.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to move unconditionally according to the realisation and understanding of what is best for all, but always first consider my personal experiences and the possible positive or negative outcomes.

SCS:

I realise and accept that what is relevant in terms of who I am is not that which is/exists outside of me, but is me here in every moment.

I realise that when the time is here, it is irrelevant whether I make it or not, because if I don’t make it, I am simply gone.

I realise that my time of attempting to become a professional dancer is over and gone – I didn’t make it in that point – I’m walking a different path now – but I realise that I can assist in creating a world wherein it becomes easier for other beings to live and become what it is they enjoy to do/be, providing that it doesn’t harm other beings.

I realise that my life is not just my own and that my experiences are not only mine, in the sense that they are relevant towards all beings. I can use my experiences to learn from them and see what is necessary to be done so that no-one else requires to go through the same experiences.

I realise that I didn’t live my life so that I can fulfil my personal dreams, but so that I can gain perspective on how the world works and the effect it has on people – to from there act in a way that adjusts the world so that people may live different lives.

I am grateful for my lifetime, who I am, what I’ve done and what I’m still busy doing – I don’t need/require to see the end-result of my actions to appreciate them.

I realise that I would’ve wanted the people who have gone before me to do what is necessary to be done so that I as part of the future generation could’ve experienced a different world.

I realise that it’s to move unconditionally, willing myself to do what I see and understand is in the interest of all, without needing to be rewarded for it.

When and as I see myself thinking/feeling that it is not fair that this is my last life – I stop, I breathe – I realise that I’m participating in a program of conditioning wherein I think/belief that I require a reward for my actions, I breathe and let go of this belief and actively will and direct myself to do what requires to be done in a moment within the understanding and realisation that this is what I would’ve wanted others to do for me.

When and as I see myself wanting to live out my personal dreams of wanting to be/become a professional dancer, I stop, I breathe – I remind myself that I’ve already gone down that path and that I have found that it is not a supportive application for myself or others at the moment. Instead, I focus on what is needed to be done to assist in manifesting a world wherein people are unconditionally supported in expanding their expression in dancing, music, or anything else that is not harmful to others – so that others won’t have to go through the ‘fighting’ experience I went through.

When and as I see myself making decisions based on what type of experience I will expect to personally experience afterwards, wherein I direct myself to do that which I expect will yield the greatest positive experience – I stop, I breathe – I re-assess my decisions and use as a guideline: to be effective within supporting myself and others and direct myself to do what is needed/required/practical in the moment. Learn more »

I went to watch the Lion King in 3D last week. This was the first time that I understood everything of the movie, because I used to watch it in French as a kid and I didn’t always understand it all. I wasn’t even aware that I didn’t understand some words, I would just look at the pictures and ‘automatically’ try to fill in the gaps with what I thought would make sense.

Anyhow, this is the first time that I understood the entire context of the words ‘Hakuna Matata’. The context of it is: When the world turns your back on you, you turn your back on the world and you go on living without worries while ignoring what is going on behind your back, eg: ignoring the rest of the world.

Those two words (Hakuna Matata) are said to mean ‘no worries’ – but there’s more to it than that. The way in which the words ‘Hakuna Matata’ are lived and presented in the movie, is through ignoring one’s responsibilities. See – Simba is actually the new lion king, which gives him responsibilities towards his fellow lions as well as all the other animals within his kingdom – in making sure a balance and harmony is maintained, so that all animals and species are able to co-exist in relative peace, only hunting and feeding off each other when required and, within that, not endangering the other species.

But instead of facing up to his past: the loss of his father and his own emotions of shame and guilt in believing he is responsbile for his father’s death – he runs away and hides in paradise. Here he is seemingly fulfilled and happy and has ‘all he wants’ – until his past catches up with him. His childhood friend – Nala – finds him, and in hearing what his father’s kingdom ended up like in the hands of his uncle, Scar, he starts seeing that his apparent bliss in paradise, is not valid. After the words of a monkey' saying that one can either run away from their past or face it and learn from it: he decides to leave his life of bliss behind and take responsibility for his kingdom.

And there you have it – the basic principles of how we walk the process of self-forgiveness, self-application, self-responsibility, common sense, best for all: presented in a children’s movie.

Now – as a child I never realised that this is what the movie was about. What I took with me from the movie was:  “I want to live like Timon and Pumba with Hakuna Matata, doing fun things in paradise and not having to worry about ANYTHING - EVER!! YAAAAAY!” – lol. And that’s what we do as children; we feel we can’t handle our reality and we go and hide in imaginary places – creating ‘another’ world for ourselves, in our own minds, where things are ‘better for us’. And what we learned in childhood, we continued doing throughout our lives, as we grew older, all the way into adulthood – spending most of our time in an illusionary world of ‘glimmer’ and ‘bliss’, while completely ignoring the actual reality as it is physically playing out around us.

Let’s manifest a world wherein children don’t feel the need to hide from the world, where children actually feel welcome, where children actually have fun, and where children take responsibility for themselves and their world, because they see that it is worth it.

To do that, we start with ourselves by facing our past, forgiving ourselves for who we were and what we’ve done in our past and learning from the past. As Simba, we cannot hide from our past, from ourselves and from our responsibilities forever. And it is simply a matter of making a decision: to live in ignorance as ‘personal bliss’, or to do what is in the benefit, in the interest of all, to create a world where no-one ever will feel the need to hide in ignorance again.

I am not saying that it is easy – I’m saying that it can be done.

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